Lazy cat world, holiday rant

Sometimes you wonder if the whole world has turned into a lazy cat.

Why does it seem that getting good service, especially from contractors and sales clerks is like pulling teeth?

Not to be discriminatory, but generally it seems older people are more genuine when they make promises. Much more it seems than the younger crowd.

Nevertheless, with the proper checks and balances, young people with good job supervision are reliable.

These days it seems one has to be almost apologetic in order to garner good service.

It used to be that cooperation and reliability was a given. Now, it seems one has to beg, charm and coerce others into working with dignity and honesty.

With contractors as well as other business folk this warning still holds true: caveat emptor, let the buyer beware.

It’s not so much that they want to cheat you, it’s just that you get the feeling they would rather be someplace else than helping you.

During this Christmas season, I’ve noticed some sales clerks are very rude. They are coarse, careless, avoid eye contact, and they just want to grab your money and get rid of you as fast as they can.

Why is it that so many people have lowered their standards when it comes to courtesy and friendly service? Is it because management has stopped breathing down their necks?

Or are they just genuinely ugly souls?

Is management at fault? 

One imagines good training means good service.

I’ve come to the conclusion that it all boils down to the fact that people have free will. If bad people get a chance to pollute, to destroy, or give bad service, they will. If they can get away with it they will, and oftentimes they do.

I’ve seen it many times. Without rules and regulations, without watch dogs and security or staff overseeing things, some employees go haywire left to their own devices.

Let’s just watch ourselves when we are in business this season, so we don’t become like those bad apples. They’re disgusting.

I was listening to an interview with a football player. He was out for months because of a head injury.

That’s football for you, is all he said to excuse his violent injury and his absence from the field.

Well when it comes to workers who deliver poor service, we don’t want to use the excuse, that’s people for you!

I always thought people were good at heart.

Sad to say, I’m just tired of those who are loser lazy.

Then again, those who are their own heroes and rise to the higher standard, garner my admiration!

A new website domain name

Find my music at CD Baby

So now I’m using this WordPress to update my music life. Part of being me, is being a radio broadcaster, a singer-songwriter and a music teacher.

I do have a music teaching studio call Zents Music Studio, but my life is really a studio of sorts. I’m learning everyday.

Although I’m looking forward to a bright musical future, I also want to discuss great singing technique, guitar and piano which I teach. But also there’s the lessons of living.

As a writer and songwriter there are stories everywhere you go, from the smiling old woman who curls her hair too tightly that you see at the grocery store, to the way you feel about the young guy who likes to use the electric wheelchair/shopping cart around the store even though he’s healthy.

There’s also the matter of psychology that comes along with being a performer. You can’t deny that people compare you as a singer-songwriter, the way you sing, the way you play, and the songs you write. Also, there’s no denying the CD’s which you record, and produce are always being judged.

There’s so many topics to write about here on my new WordPress domain at

Rigors of Living

Plan your work and work your plan!

They often say the best laid plans of mice and men go awry.

Sometimes it’s better not to have plans, and do what you know you should do, and do what you say you will do.

Part of growing up is becoming disciplined. To discipline yourself is the hardest thing to do.

Did you know you can become a life coach without any degree? To become a life coach you don’t even have to join their organisation and get on their mailing list either.

Why do so many people hire life coaches? 

I think people like to have a life coach, although it costs them a lot of money.The fact is people are unable to kick their own butts, they prefer somebody else whip them in line. 

The reality is you probably do not need anyone to tell you what to do. You know what to do. You may not want to do it. However, the ultimate decision is up to you whether or not you do it.

The truth is revealed in the movie The Wizard of Oz. You have the power within you and you’ve always had it.

One of the nice things about the digital Revolution, is that we can set up our schedule on our smartphone, and use the timer and the calendar, and it’s all paper free. 

When it comes to time management, you have to be the one to manage yourself in time. Go for it! You can do it! I believe in you! 

You don’t need me as your life coach, you need yourself to be on your side, to stand up for your truth, and your goals and dreams!

Less TV, more Life

It would be radical to say I’m giving up on television. I beg to differ. Now with a billion channels there’s something good to watch on TV, but it’s not what you think.

I’m a person who was raised on television. I’ve seen just about every show and every incarnation of story line, that nearly every TV show has become repetitive.

I was watching a movie called Headline Shooter yesterday. The film was made in 1933. The topics and tragedies it covered were just as gory as what is common fodder on today’s hit TV series. Yes death and destruction sells.

Every kind of human depravity grabs the attention of the masses on television and in books. Lately movies have seemed rather flat too. It seems every movie I see uses the same pattern of manipulating emotion in ways that have disenfranchised me to the point where they no longer thrill. Sorry, but the spectacle of special effects is wearing thin as well.

I used to watch TV to be amused and entertained. But being amused and entertained is easy on Facebook and in social media. Also, the news can be pretty entertaining. Some people can be so stupid that you can laugh at them in disgust, or hang your head down and cry. But it is human nature to ignore reality and history, so stupid people continue to proliferate in their heinous acts.

The world’s human tragedy is played out in the newspapers and on social media moment by moment. Television shows are just a faint mirroring of the human condition. So easily forgettable. A quaint escape and a huge waste of time.

In the future I think entertainment will be found in more practical ways than just sitting in idleness glued to a screen.

Human tastes are changing. People are longing to connect to past experiences and friends they’ve lost touched with.

I predict an Entertainment Revolution. I think we are getting sick of being made sick by stick people. But then I could be wrong. It seems sickos never go out of style. People like to watch other people suffer as long as it’s not them. The drama, the tragedy, the sex and violence, an entertainment history that goes back to ancient times, is replayed over and over again in TV and movies because that is what people like.

For me, I like to laugh. I like to see the beauty happiness and romance of life. You can keep it’s dirty underbelly, thank you very much. Reality to me is better than a watered-down rendition of it.

Tired and disgusted

Normally in November the weather is gray and yucky like this picture

I should be very happy. The weather today was not all gray and depressing as it normally is in November. In fact, it got up to 72 degrees, or  22.222 degrees Celsius.

Seeing a hearse outside Domino’s Pizza Parlor just makes me wonder about being overworked

But when you burn the candle at both ends, it doesn’t take a mighty straw to break the camel’s back.

I have so many balls in the air lately, sleep is just an interruption. When I really find myself fast asleep, then it’s time to get up and take care of the diabetic Pomeranian, and take the dogs out to wee.

Not only that, the two dogs have taken it upon themselves to be my alarm clock x 2. They bark their heads off when they want me to get out of bed on their timetable.

I have dyspraxia so it’s hard enough to finally go to sleep at night, and then to have to get up prematurely, it’s really awful.

One of the dogs loves to jump on the bed and jump on me. He tries to get me to get up by jumping up and down and barking on me. The other dog, who is visually challenged, just barks and barks to get me up.

The weird thing is that they go to bed when I go to bed, but they’re up before the dawn ready to go and run. So lately my life has just been so sleep-deprived. Tonight I’m going to try to go to bed a little sooner. Yet because of my  projects and work, no housework  has been done and yet it’s really piling up like crazy.

It’s awful when there’s no food in the fridge, dirty dishes in the sink and no one to do all the work except yourself.

I’m seriously considering hiring some help. But I hate it when people come over and see the mess, and also people seem to intrude in my life when I don’t want them here. I need to just develop some really good habits which I plan to do, so I can just do it all myself.

Everybody seems to be working very hard lately. It’s like when it rains it pours.

Then again there’s other people that just don’t want to have to work so they just don’t come in or they call in sick and then someone else has to carry the extra load.

You can be tired in many different ways, and usually all those ways at one time.

I’m trying to look at the bright side of things right now. There are good things coming. I know. I will just try to gather my strength, any way I can. I will try and get more sleep, not do anything tonight, except close my eyes and go to bed. If I can’t sleep, then I will get up and do some cleaning. But I think I know I’ll be able to sleep because sleeping is better and easier than having to face a sink full of dirty dishes. Nevertheless, my truck is full of groceries, I just got back from the store, now I have to put everything away and take care of my diabetic Pomeranian. The Merry-Go-Round doesn’t quit.

 I will find the strength, now that I have unloaded on my blog. It’s better to be too busy than bored. I’m no longer bored, just tired.

This diabetic Pomeranian is very feisty in the early morning hours

The Sound of Music comes to my doorstep

Debbie Turner speaks to a large crowd about her role in the Sound of Music

Tonight I took the trek up the hill to Martin Luther College in the town I live in.
I had just returned home from work and had eaten some supper and was ready to recline, until the buzzing on my SmartWatch told me I needed to be up at Martin Luther College at 8pm because an actress from the Robert Wise hit movie, by the name of Debbie Turner was going to talk about her role in “The Sound of Music.”
Growing up as I did in Toronto in the Inner City, I was a very lonely and neglected child and I found my escape in music and in musicals.
Walking home tonight, I fell into that reverie, the lines of the song from Sunset Boulevard sang in my head, we taught the world new ways to dream. That is Hollywood for you. 

There is a resurgence and a resurrection of interest in the old movies. In fact, I’m leaving to another Turner Classic Movie Cruise in about a week. This will be my 5th Turner Classic Movie Cruise and I will see Jerry Lewis, Kim Novak, Michael York, Leslie Caron, Lucie Arnaz jr., among others. 

I’ve been on cruises where I’ve seen other stars such as Shirley Jones, Mickey Rooney, Theodore Bikel, Eva Marie Saint, Angie Dickinson, Richard Wagner, Lou Gossett jr., Richard Dreyfuss, Harold Lloyd, Ruta Lee, Jane Powell, and Margaret O’Brien, who are just a few that come to mind.
Listening to Debbie Turner talk about her experiences playing Marta in The Sound of Music told me a lot about the way Hollywood used to be. The so-called lesser players were paid much less back then. The things classic movie actors and actresses have to bank on now, is the keen interest Baby Boomers along with their children have in old Hollywood. Sadly, old Hollywood, is as recent as the eighties and nineties not just the thirties and forties.

I grew up very lonely with LP’s teaching me all the lyrics to all the famous musicals from West Side Story to The Sound of Music and others in between. The curse I had was that my rhythm was poor. I have perfect pitch but not perfect rhythm, that came later with training. My husband has natural rhythm but not natural perfect pitch so we’re a perfect match.

Nevertheless, Hollywood has put its imprint on me as well as millions of others.

While kids of today may have never seen a Judy Garland film they have heard of her, just like I have heard of Rin Tin Tin, but I’ve never seen him in a movie.

So when I go on the Disney Fantasy and see  Jerry Lewis for the first time for real, it will probably be just as startling and uplifting as when I saw Shirley Jones for real on the Disney Magic. I grew up watching Jerry Lewis films. In fact he was my role model for a spell. I was a crazy zany over-the-top teenager, every once in awhile, after watching one of those movies because I was yearning for a role model, even though people thought I was nuts.

I was in Oklahoma playing the lead role as Laurie in junior high school. I was unable to talk to Shirley Jones on the ship, but I was able to listen to her speak about herself and her past and I was duly disillusioned.

Did you know she was pregnant when she was playing in the movie, The Music Man? Finding out about these Stars close up and real, they were not like in my imagination at all.

How desperately I really wanted to be a part of Hollywood, is unfathomable. 

I imagined being a movie star would mean being perfect and being happy all the time. 

In college, they said you don’t want to meet your heroes or idols because they would surely disappoint you. For a while I was reading the biographies of Barbara Streisand and all the other movie stars that I was emulating. 

I had a chance to be in a couple of local television commercials and I learned about waiting. I hated waiting for the lighting and all that. I didn’t like being part of an ensemble either. I used to sing in a choir and I hated every second of it. I wanted to be the star.

So here I am today as a radio announcer, happy as can be with two dogs to take care of and a wonderful husband who loves me. Who could ask for anything more?

In another vein, so often I heard actors and actresses say they wound up being movie stars out of dumb luck.

Perhaps it was dumb luck that prevented me from going to Hollywood and becoming an actress. Perhaps I was too dumb to qualify. I’m glad of that. I’m glad to be where I am today.

In my dreams I’m an Academy Award winner

The Why and Whatever

My dog Cole nearly broke my finger again freaking out after a squirrel he espied on our walk this morning. 

We were walking along  and he saw a squirrel dash up a tree. Although I had my two dogs on leashes, my dog Cole went crazy when he saw the squirrel. 

He yanked so hard he made me let go of the leash. Cole can run really fast, but the squirrel was already safe on a high branch by the time Cole reached the tree.

My other dog, an old Pomeranian named Pixie is visually-impaired. She takes a more circumspect view of life. Squirrels are invisible to her.

I call my two dogs The Why and Whatever. 

Pixie is The Why. When I call her to come to me she will not come unless there’s a reason. Her belly and her taste buds are her main motivator. However she does get excited when it’s time for her walk. She will come to me to put her leash on her to go out. She’s a dog who lives by way of a purpose and a plan. She is efficient and doesn’t do anything without good cause.

My Poodle named Cole is Whatever. He generally comes to me when I call him. 

He does not need a reason to obey me

He will cuddle up to me and sit by me for hours on end, and enjoys hanging around for whatever.

Cole does not have to have a reason for anything. 

Like Pixie he certainly can be bribed, but he does not need a bribe to listen to me.

As for me, I tend to be a daydreamer, and reactive. I am like my dog Cole.

I like to do things for whatever the reason. I don’t always have to have a reason for everything I do.

Nevertheless, sometimes it’s good to be like Pixie. It’s good to be motivated by purpose. Why do something if you get nothing in return?

Then again, if you buy a bunch of flowers and give them to a friend for whatever, for no reason, there doesn’t always have to be a reason, if for nothing more than it makes others happy.

It’s good to remember, just because, is okay.